Monthly Archives: February 2009

Author : Mercedes Oestermann van Essen

When you get out of bed with that uneasy feeling in your stomach and your inner talk is negative you are guaranteed to have just such a day

I don’t care how much self development work you do, you will always have some days when things are not going your way and the world seems on top of you The recent pervasive negativity has made it extra challenging to stay out of the collective fear and panick that is challenging us from every angle

We all can do with a boost to our problem solving abilities and it pays to remind ourselves that all the fear and worry is created inside ourselves What you focus on you get, It really is as simple as all that

One of the main keys to good problems solving is your ability to keep your negative emotions and feelings in check and you can do this by not reacting to them Of course, for many this idea is just utopia, because most of us are so wrapped up in our emotions that we believe we cannot control them

However, every time you look at a problem that you believe you cannot solve you are looking in the mirror of an unresolved mental block Your problem is your mind reacting to some old unresolved issue that is lurking deep inside your subconscious mind and this is telling your conscious mind that you may not have the answer to your problem Such incorect assumptions are an illusion though

Fortunately, what your mind is telling you is rubbish The reason you cannot find the answer is simply because you are focusing on the wrong thing and this creates fear and anxiety in its wake

You see, your problems are an illusion caused by your brain forming incorrect neuro associations If you have had a lot of early life trauma, and this means anything traumatic happening in your life before seven years of age you may find it more difficult to get into problem solving mode since your mind flashes up warning signs of impending danger every time a so called problem is on the horizon

Your mind takes in millions of different pieces of information in every moment and only between 25 to 40 of those pieces of information ever reach your conscious mind In other words, you are running on automatic pilot most of the time This works fine as long as all the old memory folders and past events are stored in the correct order You will react with stress and fear though if these folders are in the wrong place and you begin to panick because you fear that there is no solution to your problem

Energy techniques, like EFT and in particular Micro EFT are great tools to change your mental state quickly and release old incorrect programming in very quick time You can do Micro EFT in less than a minute It works similar to taking a few homeopathic drops every hour or so Micro input gets you macro results Provided you use it several times throught the day you will get answers to your problems, because you are gradually reducing the anxiety that has created them in he first place Before you know it, probably when you have stopped thinking about your problem the answer will appear Practicing to let go is the real secret to problem solving and a skill you should develop

Once you have practiced for a little while you can make problem solving child’s play

Mercedes Oestermann van Essen is a human development coach and author. She has created the
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Author : Mercedes Oestermann van Essen

If you are sceptical about bold claims like the above I don’t blame you You are probably wondering how anyone can get themselves out of a financial mess which probably took many years to get into? Your scepticism is justified, but wrong

Let me explain: When you do not make headway with financial issues it is not so much due to outside circumstances that are out of your control, but something you are doing inside of your head that makes you miss opportunities or go for the wrong jobs, or business partners Your mind will lead you to doing the wrong things This is the bottom line in a nutshell

So let us hone in a bit more: If you have money problems, you are consistently doing something or even several things that stop you from breaking out of the poverty trap or just moving on to the next level Maybe for you this means getting rid of the mortgage and credit card bills, building residual income or retiring with a decent amount of capital

Yes, you can still do all of these things, even in this climate However, if you are falling into the trap of the victim mindset and believe that you are helpless you will not succeed You see, learned helplessness is one of the biggest traps that stop us from getting out of a fix and make better lives for ourselves

So what must you do to move beyond your present financial trap? It starts with realising for yourself that there is something you are doing right now and you probably have been doing all your life that keeps you trapped in your present circumstances Maybe your financial fortunes are up and down? One year you have plenty of money only to lose it all and struggling like mad for several years until you are financially secure again

This pattern often indicates lack of self worth and self esteem issues as you may feel at a very deep subconscious level that you are not worthy of financial success and financial abundance Perhaps you have a belief that the good things in life, like prosperity are hard to come by, that you need to be very intelligent and lucky to get the financial freedom you admire in other successful people

Not so None of this is true You can change your mindset simply by doing a few small things every day, and yes, it takes only five m minutes Your mindset will soon change from poverty consciousness to prosperity consciousness

How can I say this with such certainty? Because I have been there, done it and got the t-shirt so to speak I am not sitting here writing all this because there is a credit crunch out there and it is a good subject to write about Far from it I have been there and am walking my talk

I know from my own experience when you persistently do small things to feed your mind positive information about your ability to see opportunities, and find time to be grateful for the things you do have in your life your mental make up changes

I have also learned that it is no good setting intentions to do elaborate life changing programs In all probability you will fail, because you have been too demanding on your time and are working on several fronts at once But those small things you do every day build up Before you know it you will have created powerful momentum Once you have momentum you will change your financial situation in no time It is like push starting a car Once it gets going you are fine So, yes financial freedom cone be obtained in five minutes per day and you should start right now What’s stopping you?

Mercedes Oestermann van Essen is a human development coach, energy therapist and author. Her book
Five Minutes To Financial Freedom is available on her website. Continue reading →

Author : Trevor Johnson

How to stop blushing is a very common question asked by teenagers and young adults every day of the week The memory of blushing in embarrassment is such a powerful emotion it can last for years and make the sufferers’ life a misery Many people can remember specific instances of blushing decades later

Although embarrassment is about social situations, the physical response is often a furious and uncontrollable blushing because we feel we have lost our self esteem, and made ourselves look stupid The blushing area is most commonly the face and neck and sometimes the upper chest

It is the embarrassment factor of blushing that makes it difficult to control or stop The embarrassment felt over others reactions to your blushing can be crippling This means that blushing can be a vicious circle; you fear a situation where you know you may blush and that fear itself tends to lead to heightened blushing

However before you start to learn to stop blushing remember there are some positive aspects to blushing, it does alert people to how you feel Because as we have said it is psychological you fear blushing and there are certain situations in which you may blush because you are frightened of blushing This is a conditioned response to the fear of blushing

The person who can reprogramme their responses so that they can remove the fear tends to blush less These psychological factors are more prevalent when someone feels they are judged and then criticized or ridiculed As a result of this it is more apparent with total strangers, but for some it can happen within the family situation or with close friends

Over and above the psychological causes for blushing are the physiological causes, or what happens physically when we blush Many psychologists believe that most of human behavior is rooted in our behavior thousands of years ago and what we do now is adaptive behavior from that time When men were hunters they were occasionally faced with danger and they had to decide what to do and this was caused the “fight or flight” response, did they stay and fight or run for their lives

If primitive man made the choice to run the only chance of survival was a speedy exit Therefore the body prepared to respond to the emergency and released adrenaline and also allowed the blood vessels to dilate thereby causing the muscles to get the maximum oxygen and move fast When the blood vessels dilate the blood becomes closer to the surface and the face gets red

Just how to stop blushing is not an easy or necessarily simple answer because of its many causes, but there are certainly a range of options you can try

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