Monthly Archives: October 2008

Author : Koz Huseyin

Is there a way to know if a goal will manifest in your life? It seems like every goal setters desire to know Can we somehow peer through time and figure out if we can achieve a certain goal? As you read this article, you will discover the method I use to figure out if a goal will manifest in a point in time

Imagine big goals Imagine life goals Here we look at goals that seem like a mammoth task These require months, years, and possibly a decade or more

If you set these kinds of goals, then you will want certainty right off the bat You don’t want to strive for nothing But, very rarely is such things done in vain There are many benefits, and it is not so much what you get, but what the process makes of you

The question I use is – would you rather live the goal or dream the goal? This may seem like a simple question, but the truth is there is much within It will allow you to see straight away your answer

Many people will set goals this year Only a few achieve The reason why these people achieve over the others is astonishing Some will say luck, while others will say it was persistence

You see, many people want the life of being on a sunny beach, owning a Yacht Drinking Martinis, and having fun

People who have actually gone through this process often find that it wasn’t for them They were seeking escape, rather than something which would allow them to grow as a human being

Asking yourself if you would rather live the goal or dream the dream, and finding the answer on the first, you will see that you can move forward Keep looking at the answer till you make it a yes, doesn’t always benefit You want to find your first answer, and how you feel about it

If you feel that you will achieve, then you almost certainly will achieve It is only a process of time, and like a seed planted, will result in a might tree that bears fruit – so will your goal

Patience is a virtue, and with persistent effort, you will realize your desire And this is why you need to answer this question during your progress

In small goals, which are easy to achieve, asking this question offers benefits, but the biggest benefit is with the long term This question will truly bring out your answer After all, as a goal setter, you decide the direction of your life

And deciding the direction is of great importance, because when it is important, you will get a lot out of not only the achievement of the goal, but by the whole process of goal setting, right through to the goals achievement

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Author : Ken Donaldson

Life is like a river It has it’s own flow and direction There are rapids and falls, as well as peaceful pools Some places are narrow and some are very wide Sometimes it goes fast and others times it hardly moves at all But rivers are always in some movement

You cannot push a river to make it go any faster, nor can you slow it down or stop it So perhaps our primary task in life is to learn how to effectively navigate this river and, of course, to enjoy the trip as we flow on through

I have known a number of people who have tried to be “river pushers”

They try to do more than is humanly possible, and also often expect the same from others They get frustrated with themselves and others when results do not happen fast enough

They are also prone to unhealthy levels of stress due to this attempted river pushing They usually miss the beauty of life and the lessons of enlightenment because they are so busy trying to “make” things happen

Likewise, there are also those people who try to stop or slow down the flow of the river

They too often suffer from high levels of unhealthy stress due to all the energy they put into their river blocking tactics They often sabotage their own lives because they are simply afraid of where the river may take them

They want to know ahead of time where they are going and what is going to happen They too miss out on the wonderful adventure and natural illuminations that occur in the flow on the river of life

Therefore, I would like to invite you to be an expert life-river navigator Here are three tips to help you successfully navigate through life:

Due to the unpredictable nature of the river, it is a good idea to make a plan and have goals, but to also let go of being attached to the outcomes Rapids and waterfalls call for flexibility and patience plan B, C, D, and E, are great back-ups when plan A does not workout

You are not a salmon, so there is no point in trying to swim upstream You cannot go backwards in life, only forward

Therefore, you may want to surround yourself with other river navigators who are being successful on their journey Be on the lookout for them and ask them their secrets most of them are happy to help

As the saying goes, “Life is a journey, not a destination “, so it is with the river of life There is much beauty and enlightenment that will naturally occur if you simply enjoy the journey

May you have an incredible journey, and as always, if I can help in any way, just let me know

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Author : Koz Huseyin

Love is an important subject We can see that many people look for love without, and forget to see the love within If you have been prone to accidents, using words to put yourself down or not being able to find love, the likely cause is love This is not just love for another, but love for you

Many people will go out to the world looking for love Often they will believe that love needs to be found with someone else So, they will look for a partner This partner they expect will bring them love

Love is an emotion however, and if we can’t find it inside, it can’t be found outside ourselves Here are keys, but few will listen

How can you see the problem of an internal aspect to love? If a person often has accidents, it is a sign of not a lot of self love If a person keeps putting themselves down, whether in word or in mind, then it again means the same thing

The heart is hard, and needs softening Love is like a feather, light as air, but we can get in the way

So, how do you find your own love? Doing so will benefit you a lot You will be more productive to your fellow human beings, and you will also open up yourself to a much more positive and better life

The simplest way I have found is with the use of a mirror Look into a mirror, and look at your eyes See yourself, and your own love for yourself

Usually you will find that within a few minutes, you may have some tears Though it can seem hard, it is the best way to soften the heart, and open you to love It is a process which when done over several days can produce major changes in how you see yourself

Some people believe in fate, and if you are such a person, then that is your own choice and belief If you hold onto the belief that you can choose your destiny, design it, and live it at some point in time, then you will start to see the impact of this exercise

Past pain is not easy We all have had things happen in our past, which has helped mold and make what we are today However, sometimes these experiences can put a person in a position which doesn’t show truth

The exercise to open yourself up to yourself will allow you much more room for experiencing the joy in love Finding love for yourself may seem odd; however, you have to realize that how you value yourself will result in the results you get

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