Monthly Archives: September 2008

Author : Suzi Elton

o you shirk responsibility for your own life with disguised blame? This sounds like a fairly accusatory statement, but hear me out There s value here Let s start with the concept of shirk responsibility There may be ways that your life does not fulfill the dreams you have This could be an indicator that you have have unconsciously not taken responsibility for creating what you want Don t get into any judgment or self critical behavior Simply observe where you life is less than what you want it to be This will likely suggest some potential activities you could choose to take to close the gap

Here are some other ways that we human may shirk responsibility for creating the lives we want and some potential disguised blaming techniques

1 ) We may choose not to fulfill our destiny, but hold someone else at fault Many clients believe they do not have the life they desire because of childhood treatment Obviously, this is untrue, when you pay attention to stories of very traumatic situations taht some have overcome If this descibes you (and it is very common), take a serious look at how you still allow the past to create a less than satisfying future In effect, you are letting them and those events rob you of the life you want Does that make any sense?

2 ) Any time you do not follow through on commitments to yourself there is some sort of disguised blame Take a look at the excuses you use, I m tired , I m depressed , Someone s not treating me right , I m overwhelmed , I didn t have enough time Somehow, these excuses suggest that you had no control over the situation You might look at the possibility that putting your commitment to yourself and your life first would be taking responsiblity Usually, if you do that, and take action in spite of circumstances, you will move out of the mindset of the excuse, no longer be controlled by it, and develop momentum by staying in action

3 ) If we hold that, It s not my fault! that we did not follow through, that, of course implies that the blame lies elsewhere Any time you find yourself thinking or saying that sentence, take a moment to explore whose fault it is

4 ) One way that clients disguise blame is by not taking charge and making sure there is enough time to do the things they commit to do to create the results they want Then, they end up incomplete and pretending to be the victim of time If you recognize yourself here, this can be an easy shift to make Simply make the activity your #1 priority and plan all other activities around it

5 ) Failing to plan or write the plan down is another way to disguise blame If you don t take the responsibility of creating a written plan, it s unlikely that you will see your responsibility in not having what you want Written plans are always a factor in success

6 ) Frequently, clients fail to progress because they have no support system What they do not see is that they have not built one They have not put out the effort to do what it takes to have the ongoing support that contributes so much to success How can you create support for yourself? Hire a coach, join a mastermind, get a mentor, take classes at an entrepreneur center Assocaite with positive and supportive people Avoid negative and non supportive situations and people Make this happen for yourself

7 ) Life intervened is another way that we might disguise blame Yes, this does happen to all of us at times If you find that that is your consistent excuse for lack of followthrough though, it is simply an excuse You might look at how you allow other things to take priority over having the life you want This is disguised blame because surely it is someone else s fault

Take a look (gently) at any ways that you do not follow through on your commitments to yourself These are likely going to show you the ways you get in the way of having the life you want Once you see your self sabotage, you can start to change it

Suzi Elton is a success coach working with highly creative types to create income that matches their talent.She has coached hundreds of clients to approach their goals strategically through tiny steps to bring about quantum leaps. Get free Life Purpose exercises, at http://mylifepurposecoaching.com. Continue reading →

Author : Suzi Elton

Have you ever had to listen to a person complain long and miserably because someone in their life will not behave differently? Do you hear bitter recrimination because you are who you are and won t be what someone else wants you to be? Are you the one who is simply unable to accept the personality or nature of another in your life? These are instances of attempting to turn a cat into a dog

There s something seriously askew when we cannot accept the basic nature of others in our life Here are some things to consider

1 ) Perhaps the issue is that you never noticed the basic nature of the cat You ve spent a lot of time with them, but somehow (perhaps because you wished it so) you convinced yourself that the cat was a dog

2 ) There are those who delude themselves about the nature of things from the beginning They prefer to live in fantasy rather than in reality They end up with lots of knocks on the head (or heart) doing this, but somehow they just keep repeating the pattern

3 ) Some people accept others as they are at first, then later decide who they are is not adequate or acceptable This can have a lot of causes it can be a rejection game meant to allow them to feel superior It can be a way to create distance Perhaps they were desperate for attention and company at first, then wake up one day finding fault

4 ) There is almost a kind of insanity involved in wanting others to be different from who they are It is irrational to want black to be white or to want a man to be a girlfriend or to want for up to be down Yet, we don t see the irrationality in wanting someone to be different from who they are

5 ) If you want a dog in your life, don t choose a cat for your pet Pay attention to who people truly are They will show you their true nature All you have to do is keep your eyes open, observe, and don t pretend that they are different from what you see

6 ) Make a point not to fantasize or romanticize about people Don t observe a single behavior and make up whole sagas about what kind of person they are Just stay in reality and stay out of daydreams

7 ) Don t pretend to be someone different from who you truly are Doing so will only complicate matters If you are presenting a false self, you are likely getting others responding to you differently from their true self and this can only result in problems later

8 ) Keep your social life active enough that you will not make choices driven by loneliness When loneliness is a primary criteria, you will likely accept others who aren t really a fit for you or your life

9 ) Decide either to accept a person as they are or let them go from your life Life is too short to spend it in dissatisfaction in our interpersonal relationships If they aren t what you want, bless them and send them on their way

10 ) If you want a dog, choose a dog Go where dogs are Involve yourself in activities that dogs frequent Get really good at paying attention to dogs you meet Make time to actively seek out what you want

11 ) Say No to any temptations to accept a cat just one last time when you really want a dog This can be a huge temptation when you are actively working to change the pattern Just don t do it It doesn t work It never did and never will You are deluding yourself

12 ) Don t go where the cats are and pine for a dog This is ridiculous behavior and incredibly self defeating

There is a whole new level of joy on the healed side of this pattern You will find yourself a lot happier and more satisfied You will accept others and yourself You will choose to fill your life with those who are what you want You will stop suffering from deluding yourself You will stop wanting and trying to change others There s a lot of inner peace in acceptance There s satisfaction in knowing a cat (or dog) when you see one There s also much more love in the world

Suzi Elton is a success coach working with highly creative types to create income that matches their talent.She has coached hundreds of clients to approach their goals strategically through tiny steps to bring about quantum leaps. Get free Life Purpose exercises, at http://mylifepurposecoaching.com. Continue reading →

Author : Brent McNutt

When we were kids, our parents have to approve almost everything we do We have to finish our home works before we can watch our favorite programs We also have to be in bed at a specific time When leave the house, we have to ask permission or should have someone older to accompany us

It is ironic because once we grow up; we realize that being a child is not so bad after all Those were the time when a scoop of ice cream can erase all our pain and problems

None of us has an option We cannot stay young forever There will come a time when we have to move out and find a living for our own

Living by yourself has its advantages and disadvantages One of its advantages is having your own space You can decorate it any way you like You do not have to worry about getting home late as well because you know that there is no one waiting for you

Living alone is also great for those who work on shifts, like the nurses They can rest at any time of the day because no one will disturb them They can prepare their cheap landau scrubs ahead of time and not worry about kids staining or wrinkling them

Another advantage of living alone is that you can express yourself more freely If you want to buy furniture, you can buy it right away without worrying if other members of the family will approve of it You can also do the chores at your own time and pace If you do not want to wash the dishes, you can leave it in the sink for a while No one will also demand that you finish your shower in fifteen minutes

Although living alone is great, there are also down moments You will particularly feel alone when you had a bad day and no one is there to comfort you It is also frustrating if you do not have someone to share your happiness

Living alone is quite a challenge too Although you have an undisturbed sleep, you will not get immediate help when needed If you are running late, no one will help you prepare your things If you are like the nurse above who prepares his cheap landau scrubs ahead of time, managing your things will not be a problem However, if you are the kind who forgets the whereabouts of his things, you will surely miss your mother

It also feels empty not to have someone when you go home However, this is a matter of choice and circumstances In order to be happy with what you have, appreciate the things that you can do

Living alone is not bad We get to do the things we want when we want It is wonderful yet sad at the same time However, all life situations are like this If you live with your family, it will not ensure that you will always live harmoniously If you have a partner, you will not have fun moments all the time Appreciate what you have and you will surely enjoy living on your own

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Author : Suzi Elton

Do you find that you consistently have a backlog of tasks to perform that seems endless? Does it overwhelm you when you think of how much you need to get done? Do you sometimes want to hide your head under the covers to avoid all the things on your To Do list? Does the relentless nature of so many demands on your time feel crazymaking at times? Do you wonder if there could ever be a way to get out from under it all or at least feel in control?

Here are a few ideas that should help you

1 ) Make a list of all the items you need to do Put them in order of priority with the most important items first If there are items with consequences involved, they should be on the top of the list

2 ) It helps to type the list up in a word processing document so that it is easy to reorganize the list keeping the top priority items first

3 ) Keep your attention and efforts on the top priority items at all times There will be numerous temptations to deviate from your top priorities No matter what happens, stay focused on them When you accomplish your most important priorities every day, you will automatically feel more in control Yes, there will still be a lot to do, but focusing on the most important items creates a momentum that increases your energy and self respect

4 ) Simply staying focused on the top priority at all times gives a feeling of control and success

5 ) Every day, take your list and reorganize it, keeping the main objectives for the day on the top of the list

6 ) Stick to the list Yes, every time your eyes land on other tasks on the list, you will feel a tug to do them Just tell yourself that every item will be handled in its own time

7 ) Any time you are able, carve out several hours or several days where you can handle as many annoying items on the list as you can This is a great thing to do to overcome the frustrated and overwhelmed feeling caused by a pile of minor items that consume your time and energy

8 ) Reward yourself with some play time when you ve made huge progress on your list

9 ) Take a look at your list and see if there are things on it that should be handled by someone besides yourself Are you doing things that you can afford to hire out? Are you doing things for others that they should be handling?

10 ) Are you doing things that you shouldn t even be doing at all? Are you a compulsive volunteer and keep committing yourself to doing more things to help others out? Give serious consideration to taking a hiatus from volunteering Yes, there will be a strong pull to help out Before you automatically say, yes , give yourself an out Give yourself time to consider it further Take a look at your current list of commitments and To Do s Think long and hard before taking on something else

11 ) Review your list and eliminate anything that is simply a time waster This could be a perfectionistic need or simply something that s been on the list so long that it s become pointless This is one of the best and simplest ways to cut the list down

12 ) Realize it will never all get done There will always be a long list as long as you are an active and vital person Change the objective to enjoying your life rather than completing the list Completing the list is as pointless as a dog chasing its own tail Even if you could succeed, so what? The list will soon grow again

Staying focused on your top priorities will always give you the feeling of getting a lot done Giving up the feeling of getting crazy about having so much to do is optional but recommended

Suzi Elton is a success coach working with highly creative types to create income that matches their talent.She has coached hundreds of clients to approach their goals strategically through tiny steps to bring about quantum leaps. Get free Life Purpose exercises, at http://mylifepurposecoaching.com. Continue reading →

Author : Koz Huseyin

Often we can think that life coaching is all about having a face to face meeting with a life coach In fact there are many ways to get life coaching As you read this article, you will discover how you can even get a million dollar life coach to give you life coaching for a tiny fraction of their full life coaching fees

Life coaching can be thought of as a face to face affair You hire a life coach, and that life coach comes to your office, residence, etc, and advices about the specific problems or needs you face

So, let us imagine a top life coach Pick anyone you want Then consider for a moment that to enlist their services to coach you, you will need to pay lets say, a million dollars for a years coaching

For many this is prohibitive, and what’s more, most people are aiming to get to that million dollars So, what are the other options? Luckily there are a few options and it won’t cost a million dollars, it won’t even cost $100,000 or even $10,000

Alternatives to face to face life and business coaching:

* Seminars

* Tape programs

* Books

* Tele-seminars

Let’s look at these in more detail As there are hidden gems with these other choices Though they are not personalized, they still offer a great way to potentially get you to the point where you can actually call up that life coach for that personalized face to face life and business coaching

* Seminars

So, you don’t have a million bucks to splash out on a top life coach The alternative is seminars Almost all of the top life coaches put on seminars throughout the year These cost a fraction of the cost, give you more insight whether this coach can meet your needs, and you get a lot out of the seminar

* Tape programs

Many life coaches offer tape programs for many personal development topics These can be a great way to learn over and over, without having to remember everything a life coach says – face to face

* Books

For the book lover, there are many books from top life coaches, who can help you achieve success Look around and you will find a book that you need to excel in whatever field or area you want to

* Tele-seminars

Life coaches often put on a teleseminar These teleseminars are great because often they are free, and though they don’t cover all the topics you may need to know about, they still offer a great way to learn about important topics for free

Teleseminars from life coaches don’t tend to give all the information, instead offering some tips There are paid for teleseminars, which can be great, because they usually offer the whole information you need to excel in a field

Looking at all the options, you realize that you don’t need a million bucks for a top life coach Getting life coaching can be as simple as buying a book, a tape program, listening to a free teleseminar or going to a seminar

You don’t need to be on the Forbes 400 to find a life coach! Visit this life coach link to find a life coach or visit this link to discover more about goal setting. Continue reading →